Women can cry tears when they are hurt, depressed or frustrated, but men have been taught from childhood not to cry. He may want to lay down and cry away the hurt, but as a man he feels he cannot. When a man is hurting emotionally, he may erupt in anger. Don't take it personally or react to it.
So many men have pain from childhood. They learn to deal with this pain through anger. A lot of men have probably seen their dads react the same way. Their dads had a lot of pain. We, as women, do cry when we experience pain. It is our way of dealing with our pain.
Men are taught to be macho and not cry. Personally, I wouldn't want to be married to a man that cried a lot. I want my man to be tougher than I am but we must allow them an outlet for their pain. If we see them reacting in anger, if we realize this is the way they react to pain, it will help us know how to deal with it better.
If the anger is out of control, do not attempt to reason with him. Walk away and wait until he is calm. Give him time to cool down just as we need time to to cry it out sometimes.
Pray for him. Pray that God will take away his pain. Sympathize with him and love him. He isn't perfect but as He grows closer to the Lord, if he is a Christian, the more he will overcome his anger and learn to deal with his pain in more constructive ways.
Love...bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
I Corinthians 13:7
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